A Meditation for Grief

grief meditation claire bidwell smith

Grief is an inescapable experience. Yet our first impulse to it is usually to run away from it. Facing all the painful feelings that come along with a loss can be overwhelming. Often we are experiencing this much pain for the very first time in our lives, and it’s completely normal to try to do everything we can not to feel it.

Yet the truth is that when we can allow ourselves to open up to the pain of loss when we can create space to feel all the emotions that arise…that is when we heal. Sometimes people are afraid that if they open that door the pain will engulf them, or that if they start crying they may never stop, but the opposite is true – it is when we can let all the emotions come forth that they will eventually begin to ease.

Meditation is a beautiful way to make space for all the thoughts and feelings that arise when we are grieving. We spend so much of our days filling in any quiet space – we watch the news, we scroll through social media, we go to work, socialize with friends, keep busy with errands and tidying our houses – it’s a wonder any of us ever sit still anymore. But sitting still when we are grieving is deeply important to the process, even if it’s the last thing you want to do.

I remember when I tried meditation for the first time after my parents died – it seemed so hard and scary. I had spent years filling up all of my time so that I wouldn’t have to feel anything. When I finally sat still it all came rushing forth. In the beginning, I cried a lot during meditation. But that was good! I needed to cry. I needed to release all the sadness I’d been carrying around. Eventually, I stopped crying and I was able to go even deeper into my meditation practice, something that led me to the peaceful place I’m in today.

In order to help you get started, I’ve created a short meditation around simply opening up to your grief. Use it as often as you feel necessary and remember that creating space for all that you are feeling is what will see you through to a more peaceful place. Go here to listen now.

Love,

Claire