Sunday, at Home

It’s Sunday and I’ve just returned from a weekend in Columbus with Greg where we went to visit one of his brothers. Greg is on his way back now and I returned earlier this morning by myself so that I can attend the Reverend’s funeral this afternoon.

I’m sitting on the couch in our cozy living room. Traveling always makes me appreciate home all the more. It was snowing lightly as I walked home from the train this morning and now I have my fireplace dvd playing, which is silly since we have a real fireplace, but it really does make the room seem warmer and cozier. (And I also might be listening to the version that plays Christmas music.)

Columbus was nice, hipper than I imagined, with a really great food scene, stylish lofts and interesting neighborhoods. And it was fun to see Greg’s brother’s life there, meet his friends and see where he works. Pregnancy has made me constantly tired though and I’m glad to be home.

This weekend I read both Time and Newsweek’s recounting of the 2008 presidential campaigns, both well written and well documented (Newsweek’s more so), and as I finished the stories I realized how much I’m still coming down off of it all. There’s some refocusing to do now; all of that energy spent immersing myself in the political drama must be redistributed. On Thursday night, Greg and I are going to begin volunteering at a local soup kitchen, serving dinner to the homeless. I’m looking forward to putting some of my free time  into service for others.

Well, that’s all on this quiet Sunday afternoon. I’m headed to the Reverend’s funeral shortly and will no doubt shed some tears.

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Yes, We Did

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We have a new post up at She Wrote, He Wrote:

Yes We Did (Experience Obama’s Victory at Grant Park)

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Life Goes On

Election day was bittersweet for me.

Just before I left the house in the afternoon to get on the train to head downtown to meet Greg, I learned that my favorite hospice patient died. He’s been a patient of ours for a year and for the last ten months I’ve visited him every week.

His death came as no surprise. I’d been to see him on Monday morning, after learning of his sharp decline over the weekend. He recognized me for a moment when I got there, calling out his familiar, "Helooo, Clara," before going back to talking to someone in the corner who wasn’t there. I sat with him for a while, holding both of his hands while tears streamed down my cheeks. Before I left I gave him a kiss on his forehead and told him that I loved him.

I’m not sad for his death but I will miss him dearly. He was due to turn 96 years old next week and was a Lutheran Reverend for most of those years. He and his wife had been married for 65 years and the house in which he lived had belonged to her parents, built at the turn of the century.

I met The Reverend (as everyone affectionately refers to him) in January and I’ve gone to see him every week since. All day long he would sit in a reclining chair by the window, listening to classical music on an old radio and looking out the window at the quiet neighborhood beyond. An old grandfather clock chimes behind him and he shuffles through the newspaper. I would sit across from him and let him tell me stories. Sometimes we would just hold hands. He always greeted and bid me farewell with a kiss on the cheek. He always called me Clara. He often told me he loved me.

He was intrigued with my story: the girl with no parents who moved from Los Angeles to follow her heart. Being old fashioned and conservative though, he was worried that I had moved all this way without the promise of marriage. He offered many times to marry me and Greg. I took Greg to meet him in an attempt to assuage any concerns. He agreed that he’s very handsome. And on each visit after that The Reverend would check my hand for a ring. In late April, when I finally got to hold out my hand with its sparkly diamond engagement ring, he was thrilled and we celebrated with sparkling apple cider.

He was even more thrilled with our quickly following nuptials and listened in earnest as I told him all the details upon our return from Cape Cod. I blew up photos so that he could peer at them, declaring everything perfect. I always felt that he was looking after me and I never doubted that he loved me. He often reminded me of my father and I never stopped being grateful to have him in my life this year.

Last week, on my regular visit, he was already beginning to decline. I told him then that I was pregnant and he was thrilled. "I’ve been waiting," he said, with a grin, and I was glad that I told him. Leaving that day, I had a feeling that it might be one of my last visits and when I got the call on Sunday that he had really taken a turn for the worse, I leaned against the counter in the kitchen where I’d been making soup, and I closed my eyes for a moment, so grateful for all this time I’ve had with him.

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But visiting him on Monday was harder than I thought. I will truly miss our time together each week. It’s been one of reflection and gentle caring, one of support, and a nourishment I didn’t realize was missing in my life. The Reverend has been a beautiful reminder that life continues to unfold until the very end and I will always be grateful for the time we shared together.

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