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On Two Years of Marriage

Today marks two years of marriage for me and Greg.

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We celebrated over the weekend by going out for sushi and a movie on Saturday. I wanted to do something simple so we just walked up to Lincoln Square and noshed on half-priced happy hour sushi at Tank. We talked about all the fun things we want to do in our life together and all the ways we want to celebrate all the people we love. After that we met up with Greg's best friend Tarek and our friends Sandy and Sarah and we all went to see Inception, which I totally enjoyed. 

The last two years have gone by quickly. It's been easy to be married. I've found it calming and deeply satisfying. Before Greg I was in a couple of long-term relationships. In fact, I've always been a relationship kind of person. I had two long-term boyfriends in high school and then two long-term boyfriends in my twenties.

But the difference between those relationships and the one I have with Greg is that those from the past were fraught with doubt and experimentation. I never felt quite sure that they were what I wanted, and I never felt quite myself within the context of who we were as a whole.

But that's not the case with Greg. I know that we are young and that our marriage is also youthful, but I have felt a difference there from the very beginning. I remember one night, early on in our courtship, when we were really just going over that waterfall of falling in love, and I remember thinking that every relationship I'd ever had, every disappointment, every failure, every misstep and every grievance had all led up to me becoming the woman I was right then in that moment — the woman that was able to meet and fall in love with this man.

Realizing that gave me the most profound sense of gratitude for all that I had shared with others. Anything I ever wished I could take back or do over was suddenly cast in a new light, for I realized that everything I had learned about myself and about how to be with others enabled me to be with Greg.

And I still feel that. Even when our relationship gets muffled by too little time, by diapers and bills and car issues, I never lose my sense of the deep foundation we share.

I just spent some time uploading some of my favorite wedding photos to my Flickr account. It was fun to revisit that weekend. As much as I fought against the idea of a wedding day being the best day of my life, it turned out to be exactly that.

12 Comments

  1. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!! LOVE YOU!!!

    Comment by Francesca on July 19, 2010 at 2:38 pm

  2. Thanks, Fran! Cant wait to see you soon!

    Comment by Claire Bidwell Smith on July 19, 2010 at 4:17 pm

  3. Aww..Congratulations! I love the photos and am so happy for the two of you to have found each other :)
    My parents have been married for 25 years now and last year on their anniversary, Mom very seriously told me that the secret of a happy marriage is not unconditional love, it is unconditional trust.
    And another thing fed to me with milk since I have been 3 is to never sleep on a fight; she insists that fights and arguments are important but always sleep happy :)
    Thought would share these with you on your big day! Take great care and its a pleasure to read your blog!

    Comment by Nima on July 20, 2010 at 12:02 am

  4. Happy Anniversary! How lovely that you celebrated with a simple meal and a discussion about the parts of your lives that you’re yet to live together.
    I love that shot — you both look so undeniably happy :)

    Comment by Sophie on July 20, 2010 at 3:03 am

  5. Aw, thank you! Yeah, I wanted to do something really simple and sweet to celebrate.

    Comment by Claire Bidwell Smith on July 20, 2010 at 4:32 pm

  6. Thanks for the sweet advice! I definitely agree with the never sleep on a fight one — we practice that around here too. :)

    Comment by Claire Bidwell Smith on July 20, 2010 at 4:33 pm

  7. Claire Happy 2nd Anniversary to you and Greg!!!!

    Comment by Wendy on July 21, 2010 at 10:55 pm

  8. Congratulations! Happy 2nd Anniversary to you and your husband. I want to thank your for those sweet advice. I wish that your family last forever.

    Comment by dining tables on July 22, 2010 at 3:42 am

  9. Aw, thanks!

    Comment by Claire Bidwell Smith on July 22, 2010 at 11:43 am

  10. Thanks, Wendy!

    Comment by Claire Bidwell Smith on July 22, 2010 at 11:43 am

  11. First of all, HAPPY ANNIVERSARY, Claire (and Greg, of course)!
    I had a hunch that reading your blog would help me at the moment-it is very nice to see you and Greg going with the flow and to where the life calls you both. I feel that I have been going against with it, and now I am just floating around… Your blog always inspires me to write, and this post looking back where you are from and you have been encourages me in a great way.
    As usual, many thanks to you, your being, and your talent!! I wish you and your family the forever happiness!!

    Comment by Sarah Chang on July 26, 2010 at 2:22 pm

  12. Aw, thanks Sarah! You are so incredibly sweet. Hope all is well with you and your husband!

    Comment by Claire Bidwell Smith on July 26, 2010 at 9:08 pm

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